The heart beats. Sweating of the palms. Turning the head. Although I’m no longer a 13-year-old girl, I’m still guilty of falling in love from time to time. How do you know that you have fallen victim to this painful ordeal? Your day is done when you see them. Creating an understandable conversation around them is a big challenge. Seeing them with someone else leaves you paralyzed. Wear your best outfits in the morning in anticipation that you may encounter them. You refresh Crashbridge in the hope that they will return your love. In my opinion, grief helps the world to turn.
“A world far from love, lovers are rooted in fantasy”
A world far from love, lovers are rooted in fantasy. Idealizing and putting someone on a pedestal allows us to create an image of a person who is often unreflective in reality. We experience imaginary scenarios in our minds. What would you say? What would you do in a relationship? We allow ourselves to believe that this person we have designed is right for the person they are or could be. In fact, more often the time away from your love is more exciting than the time spent with them. It is idea of them, which is so addictive.
So is lubrication just a byproduct of the neurotransmitters in our brains? We’ve all heard of dopamine: the happy chemical. This neurotransmitter is released as a form of immediate gratification, such as when we scroll through social media or uncheck a task from our to-do list. It is no surprise that dopamine is also released when we see or think about our love. Causing incomparable levels of enthusiasm, it is predictable that this is a major root of the addictive quality of lovers. Meeting a person often shatters the rosy look you have created in your head. They fail to live up to your incredible expectations created by the version that lives without rent in your head. Thus, although we know that lubrications often end in failure, this release of dopamine is the reason for the constant cycle of lubrications that many of us experience. By constantly chasing the feeling of euphoria caused by dopamine, we develop unhealthy obsessions with people we don’t even know. So the next time you get caught staring at that curly boy, half-like Roddy from Flushed Awayknow that science is to blame.
“So the next time you’re caught staring at this curly-haired boy, know that science is to blame.”
Falling in love can come from psychology, but in the end they are also present in our physiology. Hormonal changes associated with falling in love include elevated levels of the stress hormone cortisol, for example. Our heart rate is increased, our cheeks are red, our sympathetic nervous system is fighting or running. The sympathetic nervous system is one of the nervous systems in the body (along with the parasympathetic nervous system responsible for the “rest and digestion” response) and is activated by several mechanisms. Norepinephrine is a major trigger of the sympathetic nervous system and is released in response to that a man at the other end of the room. This “fight or flight” reaction increases our heart rate, dilates our pupils, makes us tremble and speeds up our breathing. Does it sound familiar to you?
Norepinephrine also plays an important role in our neurobiology in terms of attention and orientation in stress. In action, this means that this neurotransmitter has an inhibitory effect on insignificant information and an excitatory effect on significant tones in a stressed state. Therefore, norepinephrine is the key to why you can remember the zodiac sign of your love, but you can’t remember the name of their friend standing next to them at a party.
So if you ever find yourself writing a Crashbridge to someone with whom you exchanged just three words in Pret’s tail, know that this passion is a manifestation of the physiological and psychological effects caused by the many chemicals bouncing around your body – and listen to me, they may not be the love of life you.
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